Excellent responses..thank you.
Ensapa, your last post reflects my understanding that meaning of life is realization and the only thing going on is a dialogue between our self and the Lama. Even science is confirming how subjective reality is, and this is confirming the truth that if we purify our mind we purify our reality. One of my Lamas explained that his way of dealing with the controversy is to maintain pure conceptions and pure appearances; that the appearance of conflict and faults is a mistaken appearance to an ordinary mind. Of course to ordinary beings there appear to be many people of different dispositions and capacities, and conventions are to be dealt with in different ways, and we can certainly use every aspect of it to increase realizations of the other stages of the path of lamrim and lojong. I believe his comment to me points directly at how we need to take complete responsibility for our own appearances, views, and intentions, for at the end of the day, at the end of our life, that we aligned ourself with enlightened views and intentions is the only thing that really matters.