I agree with DS Friend. I, too, had spent a lot of time and not to mention, $$$ on motivational talks and conferences. But I found that they do not really help me in the ultimate sense. To me, these bootcamps are "cosmetic superficial solutions". They do not provide the real life long solutions. They are just a "feel good" experience. Again, this is purely from my own encounters.
A long lasting solution is of course, working on ourselves and we cannot do that if we refuse to face the ugly truth about ourselves. We do like to wallow in self pity. We do like to make excuses for things we cannot achieve and even justify why we do not like to do them.
Compassion and wisdom can come in many forms. At the end of the day, nothing matters when we do not even bother doing anything about it ourselves. No strength and wisdom can ever help us, if we don't help ourselves.
How would we ever know our own strength, when we are not the ones picking up ourselves when we fall?
How would we ever know our own wisdom, when we can't even counsel ourselves to do what's most beneficial for us? Especially when we have spent most of our lives, counseling ourselves to weasel our way out of our responsibilities and duties? There's no higher responsibility and duty than being accountable for our own actions, taking control of our lives.
How would we ever know compassion when we are not even compassionate to others, especially to those whom we have bled dry of their patience, hopes and kindness because we have always been letting them down?
It's always easy to expect people to continue giving, supporting and helping us. When do we stop expecting others to do it and we do it for ourselves and for others?
At the end of the day, if we can't even be there for ourselves to do what's best for us, we will never know how to do the same for others. Hence, perhaps this is why we will stay entrapped in 'selfishness and fear' and still label it justifiable exhaustion to the point of giving up.