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General Buddhism => General Buddhism => Topic started by: Joo Won on August 18, 2015, 12:53:42 PM
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We all experience emotion ups and downs in some stages of our lives or even we experience it daily. This article talks about some emotion patterns which disturb our inner peace. Post it here to share with you guys. May be you could share some tips on how to maintain inner peace, do not let outer things or people to "destroy" your peace of mind... :)
1. Feeling Unforgiving Towards Others
2. Easily Frustrated with Small Matters
3. Sadness and Depression
4. Anxiety Prone
5. Negatively Judging Others
6. Jealous Behaviour
7. Holding Onto Guilt
8. Often Feeling Offended
Source: http://themindunleashed.org/2014/10/8-emotional-patterns-can-disturb-inner-peace.html (http://themindunleashed.org/2014/10/8-emotional-patterns-can-disturb-inner-peace.html)
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Make it a priority everyday to do analytical and placement meditation on Lamrim, Lojong, and Vajrayana Mahamudra - problem solved.
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Make it a priority everyday to do analytical and placement meditation on Lamrim, Lojong, and Vajrayana Mahamudra - problem solved.
Here is my rough attempt to do what you say:
1. Feeling Unforgiving Towards Others
Remember that all beings have been our dear mothers.
2. Easily Frustrated with Small Matters
Avoid wrong attention, concentrate on the preciousness of this human rebirth.
3. Sadness and Depression
Think about the rarity of this precious human rebirth.
4. Anxiety Prone
Think about death and impermanence, and cool down.
5. Negatively Judging Others
Think about the sufferings undergone by the misjudged person. Exchange yourself with them.
6. Jealous Behaviour
Try to see the other's good qualities, and rejoice on them.
7. Holding Onto Guilt
Think that as a buddha you can help whoever was harmed or not helped by you, and generate bodhichitta.
8. Often Feeling Offended
Think that you are equal to others. Try to find the offended “I”. And don't take yourself too seriously ? no one does.
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And don't take yourself too seriously -- no one does.
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Matibhadra, excellent!
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Make it a priority everyday to do analytical and placement meditation on Lamrim, Lojong, and Vajrayana Mahamudra - problem solved.
Here is my rough attempt to do what you say:
1. Feeling Unforgiving Towards Others
Remember that all beings have been our dear mothers.
2. Easily Frustrated with Small Matters
Avoid wrong attention, concentrate on the preciousness of this human rebirth.
3. Sadness and Depression
Think about the rarity of this precious human rebirth.
4. Anxiety Prone
Think about death and impermanence, and cool down.
5. Negatively Judging Others
Think about the sufferings undergone by the misjudged person. Exchange yourself with them.
6. Jealous Behaviour
Try to see the other's good qualities, and rejoice on them.
7. Holding Onto Guilt
Think that as a buddha you can help whoever was harmed or not helped by you, and generate bodhichitta.
8. Often Feeling Offended
Think that you are equal to others. Try to find the offended “I”. And don't take yourself too seriously ? no one does.
Matibahdra. This is very good. Thanks. These are all Lamrim teachings. Generally if we practice the Lamrim and contemplate on the subjects as impermanence/death, optimum human rebirth, karma, suffering of the lower realms, mother sentient beings, love, compassion and boddhicitta, we should be able to overcome the mundane sufferings as above. Further we need to understand that these states of the minds are what is called the pervasive sufferings; one of the three types of sufferings and it will create the cause for future sufferings, hence it must be avoided at all cause.
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These are all Lamrim teachings.
Indeed. For the sake of enriching one's understanding, one might compare such Lamrim, Buddhist teachings with those of a non-Buddhist teacher, such as evil dalie lame of Tibet:
1. Feeling Unforgiving Towards Others
Forget about “forgiving” devil worshippers! I warned you, it is going to be like the Cultural Revolution!
2. Easily Frustrated with Small Matters
Devil worship is no small matter in my theocratic dictatorship, therefore I am frustrated for a good reason!
3. Sadness and Depression
What? One week without a self-immolation? Who would not be depressed?
4. Anxiety Prone
It's not anxiety! Exterminating devil worshippers is an urgent need!
5. Negatively Judging Others
As long as I follow the commands of my Western paymasters, my judgements are no one's business. And as far as you are concerned, I am Chenrezig, your absolute lord and master, did you get it?
6. Jealous Behaviour
That's exactly why I want to exterminate those devil worshippers, so that I don't have to feel jealous about them.
7. Holding Onto Guilt
Islamic State terrorists never feel guilty, why should I?
8. Often Feeling Offended
It is not that I “feel” offended. Human freedom is offensive.
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Matibhahra, I must say you are witty and does your homework well. You are entitled to your opinion on the Dalai Lama and I hope you respect my opinion. The Dalai Lama is not my Guru but I still respect him for all the good, however small it may be in your opinion, that he has done. There are many books by the Dalai Lama that is non controversial that I have read and continues to refer to sometimes. I refer to some books by H.E Geshe Kelsang Gyatso too. So for me I look at the teachings and they are all Tsongkhapa's teachings.
Anyway, you have certainly made this forum more interesting. Thanks for that.
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Make it a priority everyday to do analytical and placement meditation on Lamrim, Lojong, and Vajrayana Mahamudra - problem solved.
Here is my rough attempt to do what you say:
1. Feeling Unforgiving Towards Others
Remember that all beings have been our dear mothers.
2. Easily Frustrated with Small Matters
Avoid wrong attention, concentrate on the preciousness of this human rebirth.
3. Sadness and Depression
Think about the rarity of this precious human rebirth.
4. Anxiety Prone
Think about death and impermanence, and cool down.
5. Negatively Judging Others
Think about the sufferings undergone by the misjudged person. Exchange yourself with them.
6. Jealous Behaviour
Try to see the other's good qualities, and rejoice on them.
7. Holding Onto Guilt
Think that as a buddha you can help whoever was harmed or not helped by you, and generate bodhichitta.
8. Often Feeling Offended
Think that you are equal to others. Try to find the offended “I”. And don't take yourself too seriously ? no one does.
Thank you for Matibhadra's reply which based on Lord Buddha's teachings. For the Holding Onto Guilt part, I am not quite understand, can you explain more on this. Thank you.
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Well said Matibhadra. That explanation is great, simplified and easy to understand.
Thank you for Matibhadra's reply which based on Lord Buddha's teachings. For the Holding Onto Guilt part, I am not quite understand, can you explain more on this. Thank you.
Joo Won, I believe what Matibhadra meant is to forgive and forget. Not holding on to any hatred that will blind our visions for the higher spiritual path that we are pursuing as it will not do any good for us at all. It will only bring us misery.
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Make it a priority everyday to do analytical and placement meditation on Lamrim, Lojong, and Vajrayana Mahamudra - problem solved.
Here is my rough attempt to do what you say:
1. Feeling Unforgiving Towards Others
Remember that all beings have been our dear mothers.
2. Easily Frustrated with Small Matters
Avoid wrong attention, concentrate on the preciousness of this human rebirth.
3. Sadness and Depression
Think about the rarity of this precious human rebirth.
4. Anxiety Prone
Think about death and impermanence, and cool down.
5. Negatively Judging Others
Think about the sufferings undergone by the misjudged person. Exchange yourself with them.
6. Jealous Behaviour
Try to see the other's good qualities, and rejoice on them.
7. Holding Onto Guilt
Think that as a buddha you can help whoever was harmed or not helped by you, and generate bodhichitta.
8. Often Feeling Offended
Think that you are equal to others. Try to find the offended “I”. And don't take yourself too seriously ? no one does.
Thank you for Matibhadra's reply which based on Lord Buddha's teachings. For the Holding Onto Guilt part, I am not quite understand, can you explain more on this. Thank you.
Anyone who read his post for knowledge should be aware to what he has written about the Dalai Lama, and the labelling he is making.
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Further all these emotional patterns derived from the attachment to a concept of the "self" or the "I'. True inner peace can only be achieved by attaining Wisdom of the non-self and/or Omniscience by practicing the 3 higher training of Ethic, Meditation and Wisdom that leads to Liberation ; in addition the 3 Principal Paths of Renunciation, Boddhicitta and Wisdom that leads to Omniscience.
In the scheme of the path the position of Meditation is achieve the state of Mental Quiescence and use it to meditate on special insight of Wisdom of non self and phenomena. Otherwise, meditation can lead one to falsely associate the bliss of meditative states as the bliss of Liberation; which the then further the cycle of samsara.
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7. Holding Onto Guilt
Think that as a buddha you can help whoever was harmed or not helped by you, and generate bodhichitta.
For the Holding Onto Guilt part, I am not quite understand, can you explain more on this. Thank you.
“Guilt” means simply “debt”. We are all indebted to our mother sentient beings, who have taken care of us since beginningless time.
The only way to redeem, or repay, this debt is to achieve buddhahood, which enables us effectively to help our mother sentient beings.
Denying this debt owed to our mother sentient beings is very wrong, as it denies dependent arising. And we cannot repay our debt if we do not recognize it.
Besides, keeping this debt unpaid brings only depression and unhappiness. Repaying this debt is the source of every joy and happiness. It means peace, redemption, and deliverance.
Therefore, the only possible way out of “holding onto guilt” is to recognize our debt, owed to our mother sentient beings, and to repay it, achieving buddhahood. Therefore, one generates bodhicitta, or the resolve to achieve buddhahood in order to benefit all sentient beings.
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Some misguided teachers may think that there are other methods not to hold onto guilt, such as thinking that we are not indebted to our mother sentient beings, and abandoning them to their own suffering, or not feeling responsible for their welfare. This might create a short-lived, delusional feeling of relief, but actually will make things even worse, increasing our debt and guilt feeling. This is the brutal way of materialism and capitalism in general.
Other perverted teachers try to capitalize on the feeling of guilt, describing it as the result of an offence against some god, and enhancing it to the point of making their followers feel unworthy, depressed, dejected, dependent, submissive, and therefore easily subjected to abuse and exploitation.
Such wicked schema, by the way, is the very essence of Christianity, as invented by the Jewish debt (or guilt) collector Paul of Tarsus, with his clever ideas of “original sin”, and the Christ's monopoly of redemption (except for Jews, of course, by whom and on whose behalf Christianity was invented, as Islam for that matter).
Indeed, Paul conceived Christianity as a giant, global debt collecting schema based on manipulation of guilt, as it defines all non-Jews as inborn debtors (because of the guilt of the “original sin”), who could only find “redemption” through subservience and enslavement to the Jewish debt-owning god through his debt-collecting son, Jesus Christ.
In a similar way, international bankers together with institutions such as IMF and World Bank, imposing their loans of fake money on countries and peoples through corruption and war, try to define all human beings (except of course for such bankers themselves) as debtors, already born as debtors, who can only find “redemption” working as slaves throughout their lives in order to pay such debts.
To sum up, “religion”, war, finance, banking, interests, government, economy, austerity policies, labor laws, media brainwashing propaganda, and so forth, it's all about guilt, or debt, manipulation.
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Anyone who read his post for knowledge should be aware to what he has written about the Dalai Lama, and the labelling he is making.
The evil dalie, you mean?
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There are many books by the Dalai Lama that is non controversial that I have read and continues to refer to sometimes.
Like one single rotten orange spoils the whole juice made out of many oranges, every word hypocritically written or uttered by the evil dalie is inexorably spoiled by the rottenness of his wicked views and behavior.
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All the emotional patterns that can disturb our inner peace stems from the "self". This is the most obvious results when the "I" is placed on the throne and worshipped day and night. So much care and effort is targeted to maintain the "I" that the moment something or someone external disturbs the expectations of the "I", an emotional distress will be triggered !
Hence, in order to minimise or eliminate emotional distress in our lives, we should remove the emphasis on the "I". We should focus out of ourselves and learn to prioritise others . The battle is within, it was never about anyone or anything external !!
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We all experience emotion ups and downs in some stages of our lives or even we experience it daily. This article talks about some emotion patterns which disturb our inner peace. Post it here to share with you guys. May be you could share some tips on how to maintain inner peace, do not let outer things or people to "destroy" your peace of mind... :)
1. Feeling Unforgiving Towards Others
2. Easily Frustrated with Small Matters
3. Sadness and Depression
4. Anxiety Prone
5. Negatively Judging Others
6. Jealous Behaviour
7. Holding Onto Guilt
8. Often Feeling Offended
Source: [url]http://themindunleashed.org/2014/10/8-emotional-patterns-can-disturb-inner-peace.html[/url] ([url]http://themindunleashed.org/2014/10/8-emotional-patterns-can-disturb-inner-peace.html[/url])
The common theme with all this emotion is that they are negative emotions and it is based on the differentiation that there is a substantial self and hence also others. If we focus on the differentiation of self and others we will develop these emotions that will make us spiral down the road of more suffering.
However, if we focus on the similarities of the the "self and others" and even better that others are infinitely more in numbers and the self is only one, then paradoxically, we will find happiness and alleviate this emotions.
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Thank you for your sharing cookie! Short breathing meditation daily is a good way to strengthen our mind so that it can be controlled and let go when such thoughts arise in our mind.
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1. Feeling Unforgiving Towards Others
Why spend so much emotional energy holding on to the past. The person you trying so hard not to forgive probably didn't waste any thoughts or energy on the matter or on you. It is most likely just a one sided suffering on your part. What are you trying to achieve because it definitely doesn't bring you any happiness by not forgiving others.
2. Easily Frustrated with Small Matters
Being petty is a horrible and sad way to live.
3. Sadness and Depression
A form of deluded self indulgence.
4. Anxiety Prone
Fear of our weakness being exposed.
5. Negatively Judging Others
A distraction to divert attention from our own faults and shortcomings.
6. Jealous Behaviour
This is your low self esteem manisfesting itself.
7. Holding Onto Guilt
Guilt is just another form of self pity. Self pity is a reflection of selfishness.
8. Often Feeling Offended
The world is NOT out to get you. Trust me, people are too busy being self centered instead of wasting time offending you. Not everything is about you.
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Matibhadra, your reference - "short-lived, delusional feeling of relief, but actually will make things even worse, increasing our debt and guilt feeling" - is quite humorous yet on point. It is just a relief that we will feel but does nothing to absolve the matter.
As for the 'evil dalie', by even mentioning your reference disturbs me not because of fanaticism or anything pro or against. Just that I'm a beginner and trying very hard to not say anything negative about anybody. As I said, trying very hard and failing...lol... But, just for a clear understanding of your point of view, is it ok to call anybody evil? I thought we have to practice being kind and positive?
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Thank you all for your interesting discussion on the 8 emotional patterns with the helpful anti-dotes given. However on point 4 by Matibhadra was a little confusing to me.
4. Anxiety Prone - Think about death and impermanence, and cool down.
Being already anxiety prone, wouldn't thinking of death make the person more anxious & panicky? I would have thought that to focus outwards rather than the self would be a better choice? Focus outwards towards helping others, we will pay less attention to our ego & whatever matters causing the anxiety. Maybe someone could please help clarify more on this point? Thank you.